All that matters is YOUR man or YOUR woman

Don't busy and embitter yourself with debates about MEN and how they are unfaithful, selfish or lazy. Neither about WOMEN and how they have all become money hungry, rude and unable to care for a home.

Concern yourself only with making sure that when you choose YOUR MAN or YOUR WOMAN, you choose the good one with the great qualities that you want. That way, no matter how much drama is happening out there, you can still have a great marriage like very many people are today.

If you are complaining and waiting until all men and women change, you will wait forever, because all the ranting and debate in the world cannot change all men and all women.

Be wise, #choosewell

Barikiweni. Have a blessed week.

Did God really say?

When satan cannot get you to reject or forget God's Word, he will try to get you confused about your interpretation it. It's the oldest trick in the book.

"Did God really say...." That is what he said to Eve and then convinced her that eating the forbidden fruit wasn't such a big deal at all. He convinced her that she had misunderstood God and was making a big deal out of nothing. Humanity regrets that decision to date.

Did God really say that you shouldn't bribe? - What if it's the only way?
Did God really say that you cannot kill? - But abortion is kind to the mother.
Did God really say that you shouldn't fornicate? - But love is of God and love is good.
Did God really say that you shouldn't commit adultery? - But what if their spouse is mean to them and you are their true soul mate?
Did God really say that you should never forsake assembling with brethren in worship? - But what if members of your church are all fake and you are busy.
Did God really say that you shouldn't criticize and judge? - But what if it's a man of God who is cheating people. Surely you need to post about it.
Did God really say that homosexuality is sin and will lead to judgement? - But doesn't that make you cruel and intolerant?

The enemy will even use scripture to confuse you or to contradict other things that God has said. Remember, he tried this on Jesus during the temptation. What lie have you believed to the point of making excuses against what God has said? That is the cunning of the enemy and if you are not discerning, you will slowly accommodate what God hates and condemn yourself to judgement. Don't do it!

In Jesus' Name, you are wise.

Barikiweni

God's light will put you ahead in life.

In the beginning, God said "Light be" and there was LIGHT on the FIRST day of creation. But the sun, moon, stars and other natural heavenly bodies were created on day FOUR of creation. [Genesis 1]

There's supernaural light, insight, wisdom and knowledge that supercedes natural light. If u always wait until u can see evidence with your natural eyes, you will be late, you will lag behind and be slow in life .

God is Light and the Spirit of God in you will lead you into things before they become obvious and apparent to everyone. Listen to Him. He will show you things to come before they happenn; to warn you and to bless you. Through thoughts, unctions, ideas, dreams, visions, prophecy, and many other avenues .
Spend time with Him and follow His leading in 2017 and you will thrive. But remember, His leading will never conradict His Word. Check everything against scripture first and then, take action.

Barikiweni.

Career strain on your marriage?

19 years ago, my husband was working 7 days a week. In Church ministry, most staff members get their off days on Mondays. There are too many preparations for ministry on Saturday so it has to be a work day. So while the rest of us were off on Monday, my husband had counseling sessions and had to work on Monday to make sure all was well in his department before office opens again on Tuesday. We were newly married and had no time together except in the evenings and as you know, that is also not always guaranteed. What many people do when this happens, is to conclude that it is their fate. “The will of God”. That they should be at least grateful that they have jobs.

We desired time together and so we wrote a petition to God to help us have time together. At least an off day where we could do what normal couples do; go shopping, go visiting, go for outings or just relax at home together. Our attitude has always been that you don’t have to choose between one or the other when it comes to God’s blessings. You can have all that you desire. One blessing does not have to negate the other. Good jobs or businesses do not have to negate life or time together. It’s up to you. What do you believe for?

So we wrote the petition, prayed, signed it and dated it [you might need to learn about the prayer of petition]. From then on, we would diligently just thank God in faith. As I write today, we spend EVERYDAY together. It began by him being given that Monday officially off and eventually, when we began ministry, we had everyday together. It’s been so for the past 17 years. We are ministers and we run business together. We have been re-paid for the time that we lost; good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over.  Forget those who tell you that spouses cannot work together. That it’s too stifling. I loooove working with him. To date, even when he has to go out often and work late, I still miss him. Why? Coz I really enjoy his company. I married my best friend. God answered our prayer and for that, we are forever grateful. We are truly blessed, but make no mistake, it didn’t just fall on our laps. We had to push for it in faith and prayer. We’ve had to close our minds to impossibility and keep believing that it was possible.

I’m writing this to encourage you. Ask God for what you want. Don’t settle for living in different towns, different nations or barely having time together. You don’t have to choose one or the other. Ask God for favour, ask God for wisdom, ask God for transfers, ask God for business ideas. He will help you. He wants to help you. He designed for married people to do life together and that involves living together and having time to spend with each other. Only believe!

Barikiweni. Have a lovely week.

OF FALSE PROPHETS AND CHURCH FAILURE

Still on the Prophet Kanyari story: When something like this happens, there are often a number reactions:

Those who hate the church rejoice at yet another opportunity to shame it, mock it, laugh at it and justify their reasons for not attending.

The self righteous and religious [like the pharisees] take the opportunity to berate the person while highlighting the "righteousness" of their own person, church, organization or sect.

The immature believer gets tossed, discouraged and confused that a minister can do such evil and people can talk so badly about the church. He/she then begins to doubt their own faith and may even join in conversations mocking the very church and doctrine that they ascribe to.

Then there's the mature believer who knows that the Church has "died many deaths" through the ages but cannot be prevailed against. Whose greatest hurt is that the Name and doctrine of Christ is being mocked yet again. Who grieves for the many sincere believers who have been duped and hurt in the process and who might completely walk away from God because of this. Who prays for the perpetrators and asks God through His punishment and/or mercy to convict them and help them change. Why?

He knows that David [the man after God's own heart] stole someone's wife and rallied national resources to murder her husband. God punished him, convicted him, helped him to repent and to get restored. That Paul the apostle was a ruthless murderer saved by grace. That Manasseh; the most evil king in Israel, was worse than the nations that God had driven out. He was a baby sacrificing, idol worshiping, sexual perversion promoting [it went hand in hand with the pagan temples] king but God punished him and convicted him and he completely repented, changed and went on to make right the things that he had done wrong.

God's greatest interest is to help the "sick" get well and to rob hell of yet another possible occupant. This is ALWAYS the best scenario. Sometimes punishment is a great act of mercy. It's an intervention that brings the person back to their senses while they still have time to repent. Never write off people at times like this. Pray for them to repent. Pray also for those who are hurt. Pray for truth to prevail and pray for the church.

Your personal responsibility is to always choose maturity. To never rejoice at another persons calamity and to be so grounded in the Word that you are not tossed to and fro by events like this.

You are blessed. Have an awesome week.

Obadiah 1:12 But you should not have gazed on the day of your brother In the day of his captivity; Nor should you have rejoiced over the children of Judah In the day of their destruction; Nor should you have spoken proudly In the day of distress.

Forgive

"Forgiveness doesn't mean that the damage never existed. It means that the damage no longer controls your life." Anon

Let go and be free!

There's no traffic, on the extra mile.

"There's not traffic on the extra mile". R.S

Go the extra mile. Why? Because the long cues are on mediocre lane. When you decide to be excellent, to do more and to go to the top of your field, you will realize that there is always room at the top. People are comfortable jostling for average. Be different. Go higher. That's where you belong.

De 28:13 "And the LORD will make you the head and not the tail; you shall be above only, and not be beneath,

Barikiweni! Enjoy church tomorrow.

Nobody's doormat!

Jesus was so confident in God's favor that He was not desperate for validation from anyone or anything. He shut demons up when they tried to testify about Him. He did not need their endorsement. He was not desperate for a good word from them.

Which devils are you bowing down to, because you feel that you need validation from them? What mistreatment? What unfairness? What diminishing roles have you stooped to, in order for that person to put in a good word for you? What unseemly roles have you deteriorated into because you are desperate for that person to return a favor?

Change strategy. Start studying God's favor, decree it over your life, recover your dignity and walk tall. If God is for you, you don't need to be anybody's slave to advance in life. Be diligent with God's favor and you won't need to be diligent about being someone's doormat.

You are blessed.

Success at what cost?

"What you compromise to get to the top of the mountain, will control you on the mountain."Bill Winston

Don't get your success on the back bone of sabotage, shadiness, corruption, oppression, compromise or sin. The devil will keep coming back for his shares if you make it through his principles and you will not enjoy your success. Go up righteously and enjoy success with no sorrow added.

Pr 10:22 The blessing of the LORD makes one rich, And He adds no sorrow with it.

Marriage is LONG, choose well!

When talking with my husband today, we had a baffling "aha moment". He has actually lived with me longer than my parents lived with me! I went to boarding school at 14 and my mum moved when I was 16. On the other hand, we have lived with him, everyday, for 16 years. That really hit me!

Singles, marriage is LONG. Don't be apologetic about being picky. don't feel guilty for taking your time. Don't be more particular about a hair do or a shoe that you wear than you are over a person you will probably spend decades with. Don't skim over the issues. It's o.k. if you take longer than others to get it right, just take your time and get it right. You will thank yourself in the years to come.

Barikiweni!

A negative mind can never give you a positive life.

"A negative mind will never give you a positive life". Zig Ziglar

You won't make it if you think it can't be done. Your marriage won't be happy if you think, marriage is a scam. You won't have a good home if you believe that you have to sacrifice either your career or your family in order to succeed. You won't be a strong believer if you think the world is too dark and too sinful. You won't get out of debt if you think it's impossible.

People are doing these things everyday and succeeding in them. If you don't like the results in your life, interrogate your thoughts and you may realize that you have been a negative thinker. It all begins in your thoughts.

Pr 23:7 For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he

Your focus fortells your future!

Your focus foretells your future!

Mighty anointed people are not so by mistake. They don't have a different Bible and were not saved by a higher grade of the blood of Jesus. It's their focus. They study the Word, they pray much, they confess and expect the power of God to manifest and they step out and do it.

Rich people do not make and maintain wealth by mistake. They study money, they call in money, they expect money, they hang out with those who are already making money and they go and good money.

Failed relationships are not so by mistake. People keep saying that relationships don't work, that all men are cheats and women are gold diggers, they focus on offenses, they listen to shows and read magazines about cheating and failed relationships, they are fascinated about relationship drama, they talk negative about their relationships and then they go out and ruin them.

Those who pass exams don't do so by mistake. They focus; they study hard, they pray for success they confess success, they expect success, they team up with those who want success and then they go out and achieve it.

It's not just about what you pray in your limited moments of prayer. It's about what you FOCUS YOUR LIFE ON. What you think, what you say, what you listen to, what you watch what you read, what you expect, who you hang out with and what you do.

THE FRUIT IN YOUR LIFE IS THE MANIFESTATION OF YOUR REAL FOCUS, NOT YOUR IMAGINED OR INTENDED FOCUS. Change your focus, change your life.

You will know them by their fruits. Mt 7:16

Don't get seduced!

"Aaaaw, you're such a good guy! But I don't want a good guy, I want a phenomenal man! You are NOT phenomenal".

Words spoken by a wife to her husband while feeling hot and too good for him. She's been seduced by a rich, "with it" guy who makes her hubby now seem like a joke to her: so reliable, so loving, but so "boring". From Tyler Perry's movie, TEMPTATIONS. A great, sobering relationships/marriage movie.

Forget the Hollywood style of overlapping marriages/relationships and easily discarding people as you pursue the big league. Real life is not like that. You will reap what you sow. Disloyalty destroys. If you allow it into your life, it will cause you to lose true value as you chase relationship mirages.

Never ever allow yourself to be seduced from a healthy, loving relationship, for a flashy shallow one. All that glitters is not gold! The script is always the same. It will blow in, blow up and blow out and you will be left standing alone; having lost someone that God gave to you and having been used and dumped. Just remember that whoever is willing to cheat with you, will be willing to cheat on you.

Somebody needs to hear this today. Be wise. STAY LOYAL!

Stolen water is sweet, And bread eaten in secret is pleasant."
But he does not know that the dead are there - Pr 9:17 & 18

Be blessed. Enjoy church tomorrow.