Still friends with your ex?

A former alcoholic does not need to hang around alcohol to prove his resolve and maturity.

A former thief doesn't need to hang around bank safes and other thieves to prove their maturity.

A former porn addict doesn't need to hang around pornography sites and material to prove their maturity.

A formerly obese person isn't advised to stock their fridge with junk food to prove their new found resolve and maturity.

In all the above situations, the advice is the same. Stay away! Remove from your life, the opportunities that will lead you back into a former indulgence. Get the stuff out of your house and replace it with a stock of good, productive stuff.

You also don't need to hang around your ex to prove resolve and maturity.

I am one of those who believe it is foolish to remain close friends with someone that you have dated before. We often pray, "lead us not into temptation" and yet we lead ourselves into temptation by keeping touch, meeting for tea, receiving rides, financial help and phone calls from our ex. It is not wise. Stop hanging around, stop kindling back the flames, stop stoking the emotions. Get out and burn that bridge.

What you refuse to let go off, determines what will or will not come into your life. It's my observation that most people believe it's o.k. to hang around their ex until you turn the tables around and ask them whether or not it's o.k. for their man/woman to remain close friends with their ex. Suddenly, there's 20-20 clarity in understanding as to why that is extremely uncomfortable for the current person in your life. It is very inconsiderate. Don't do it.

Barikiweni!